Josiah Bryan

The words have just left his mouth, and you sit there, open mouthed, shocked, devastated and with no clue how to respond. He said he is pretty sure he wants to end the marriage and mentioned the dreaded D word. You might think this is the end, and there is no coming back from this, but this doesn’t need to be the end if you are prepared to fight for your marriage. After all, if something is worth having, then it’s worth fighting for. But what should you do now you have found the devastating truth about how he feels about you and the marriage? Follow these 5 tips, and you are going to be in with a shot of holding on to your beloved marriage, and he may never utter the D word ever again.

1. Don’t make it clear that you are devastated about it. Yes, we both know you are, but he may see that as a sign of weakness and he may even be ‘testing’ you. Instead, say you are disappointed, but that ‘life goes on’. Try not to cry in front of him, and certainly don’t make things more dramatic by discussing it with friends and family when he is around.

2. Try and go on as normally as possible. Saying and doing are two very different things. Your husband may have told you he thinks he wants a divorce, but has he seen a lawyer? Do you have any papers yet? If not, it’s not over yet. Go through your day to day life as you normally would. Yes, it’s difficult, but it’s not impossible.

3. Take the pressure off the marriage. What I mean by this is don’t be tempted to try and suddenly change into what you think he wants. Instead, try and spend some time together in a kind of ‘friends’ capacity. Try to just get along well for now. I’d also recommend no kissing or physical intimacy.

4. Spend some more time doing things outside of the marriage. Maybe you can spend more time with friends or pursuing your hobbies and interests. I absolutely DO NOT mean flirting with other men just to make him jealous or any of that monkey business. That’s just childish and will come back to bite you.

5. Let the dust settle. He very well might have said what he said in the heat of the moment, or after a period of frustration or anger. Even if he felt he really meant it, a period of reflection may do wonders in terms of him realizing he was being irrational and overreacting. Don’t ask him why, don’t keep pushing him for answers. Just let it be for now.

It’s been said over and over again, being the best man is an honor. You have the privilege of being your friend or brother’s wing man during the most important day of his life. However, it’s not an easy position to be in. One of the most daunting tasks of being the best man is giving the toast. As this is an event that has been in the making for months, it will not do to just create your speech just before you are about to give it. A lot of thought must be done before creating best mans speeches. Fortunately, samples of best mans speeches are aplenty online. Consider this guideline as you prepare your speech.

1.      Relax and take it easy. Standing up and speaking in front of hundreds of guests can be nerve-wracking. However, this is a joyous event, a celebration of love; just relax before giving your speech and you will be fine.

2.      Insert a few jokes to make it fun. Since this is a celebration, it’s okay to insert a few jokes and funny anecdotes here and there in your speech. A hearty laugh is better than a bucket full of tears. Just make sure that your jokes are clean as bad jokes are not appreciated by people in general.

3.      Give marriage advices. If you’re married, share something about what you have learned in your own marriage. If you’re not married, talk about your observations about married people and how they made their relationship last.

4.      Finally, keep it short. Guests come to the wedding reception to enjoy and have fun. They don’t want to sit down and listen to long-winded speeches. Remember, this wedding is not about you, but about the bride and groom.

If you consider to have your wedding in summertime, a nice option is to plan your wedding outdoor.

Long warm summer days are inviting you for a unique outdoor wedding.

For your wedding plan, here are some helpful tips and ideas to consider:

Take advantage of an outdoor wedding

Summertime is the best time for an outdoor setting. Places like gardens, a beautiful park or a beach are ideal for a wedding.

It might be a good idea to celebrate the wedding in the afternoon, when it isn’t so hot anymore; take advantage of the beautiful flora, which surround you during the celebration. The nature gives you and your guests the right atmosphere for an unforgettable day. (continue reading…)